Saying “yes” when you’re aching to say “no.” Apologizing to someone who owes you the apology. Digging your heels in deeper when you know you’re the one in the wrong.
Over-explaining your truth to someone who stopped listening a long time ago. Romanticizing the bare minimum.
Begging for basic decency. Chasing people who do not want to be caught. Building a life based on what you think looks “good” but not on what actually feels good. Ignoring your intuition. Ignoring your body. Ignoring your needs.
Contorting and bending and breaking to fit in places you know you’ve outgrown. Staying in a relationship that has run its course. Not allowing time for deep rest. Running on fumes. Staying quiet when someone disrespects you.
Refusing to allow what already is. Lying to yourself. Never asking for help. Never taking a chance on yourself. Never living up to your own word. Celebrating those who only tolerate you. Wishing you were someone else.
take care of yourself and never forget who you really are
Thinking again about Taylor liking that TikTok about how the love interest in Lavender Haze was a weatherman because he understood her emotional patterns
i think it’s safe to say at this point that the weatherman is now unemployed
I’m back with another fanart inspired by the fanfiction “come out of the ashes” by SilverStudios5140 on AO3. This is a scene from chapter 23, Raijin (Naruto) is trying to get away from enemy shinobi carrying an injured Kakashi on his back. I added a bit of drama in this piece with a Kunai that grazes Naruto’s cheek. :P
I drew a bonus version with another outfit for Raijin, one that got mentioned in the chapter before this scene that got me inspired. (I totally did NOT draw that version first, then reread the chapter and realized that I drew the wrong outfit…) Just added hakama-like trousers instead of a ‘normal’ kimono because I think it would be a bit difficult to jump like this with a normal kimono (?).
I actually like how this turned out, hope you like it too (just ignore the roughly drawn background, lol). Anyway, thank you for taking a look! :)
Taylor Swift’s fans are renowned for their loyalty and dedication.
Known colloquially as “Swifties,” they sell out stadiums in minutes; spend weeks creating intricate outfits that pay tribute to her albums; comb through her lyrics to find Easter eggs and secret messages.
Back in November, the fandom received national attention for taking action after Ticketmaster bungled the Eras Tour presale.
The backlash was so loud and so fervent that the Department of Justice launched an antitrust investigation into Ticketmaster’s parent company. The power of Swifties became clearer than ever.
Indeed, the sheer passion of Swift’s fans has helped make her the biggest pop star in the world — but that doesn’t grant them absolute access to her life and personal space.
Recently, Swift obsessives have been exhibiting overzealous — and frankly concerning — behavior. Videos have circulated online that show swarms of people camping outside her home in New York City and Electric Lady Studios, where she’s been spotted working in between tour dates. Other clips show fans chasing her car down the street.
It’s one thing to wait for hours in the pouring rain to watch Swift deliver a spectacular concert. That’s her job. It’s another, more sinister thing to wait for hours on the sidewalk, just to film her car entering her home garage. That’s her life.
Swift has been candid about fending off stalkers throughout her career, making this behavior particularly egregious for anyone who claims to care about her well-being.
“My fear of violence has continued into my personal life,” she wrote for Elle in 2019. “I carry QuikClot army-grade bandage dressing, which is for gunshot or stab wounds. Websites and tabloids have taken it upon themselves to post every home address I’ve ever had online. You get enough stalkers trying to break into your house and you kind of start prepping for bad things.”
This is not to say that Swift’s most fervent fans are all stalkers, but it’s easy to see how this behavior could be triggering for someone who’s been stalked. And as Swift said in her “Miss Americana” documentary in 2020, “There’s a difference between ‘I really connect with your lyrics’ and 'I’m going to break in.’” Some Swifties clearly need to be reminded of where that line is.
This is also not the first time Swifties have overstepped. Some fans have been known to harass members of the LGBTQ community for analyzing Swift’s songs through a queer lens. Others have sent insults and death threats to music critics for less-than-glowing reviews of Swift’s music.
Of course, this behavior isn’t unique to Swifties. But Swift’s lack of admonition is uniquely strange. She has marketed herself as someone who’s not afraid to speak up to defend her values, someone who has explicitly condemned homophobes and bullies in her music.
Swift has also said she’s proud of her affectionate relationship with fans. She has invited Swifties to her Nashville home for album listening parties; sent personalized notes to celebrate milestones; donated money for college tuitions; protected concertgoers from aggressive security guards.
Unfortunately, a healthy relationship cannot be sustained with affection alone, be it interpersonal or parasocial.
At the risk of sounding like a wannabe therapist, constructive feedback is essential for growth — and when someone you love disrespects your boundaries, it’s not constructive to say silent.
This is something that Phoebe Bridgers, Swift’s friend and collaborator, knows all too well.
Although Bridgers experiences fame on a vastly different level than Swift, she has also been subjected to abuse and entitlement at the hands of “people with my picture as their Twitter picture.”
In a March interview with Them, Bridgers said she was “bullied” in the midst of a speculative frenzy about her dating life — while she was on the way to her father’s funeral.
“I’ve had people take more than I’m giving, and I’m giving a lot,” Bridgers recently told the Wall Street Journal. “I’m pretty fucking transparent, because I would value that in someone whose music I liked when I was a kid. Seeing any representation of any feeling and anything true was awesome to me. To be punished for that is so dark.”
“There’s a higher chance that you’ll meet a fan that you hate than a fan that you love,” she added. “You’re way more likely to be confronted with someone who just violated your privacy.”
If these quotes rub you the wrong way, you may be the problem.
Connecting to a person’s music does not give you the right to violate her privacy, and Bridgers isn’t afraid to draw that line. I wish more musicians would follow suit.
Ahead of Bridgers’ final performance at the Eras Tour on Sunday, I hope Swift is able to absorb some of her bravery and wisdom. It’s OK to criticize people for bad behavior — and the fans who stick around are the ones worth keeping.
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Even the media can get it right on occasion, the recent behaviour by some so called swifties is bordering on STALKING and needs to stop.
Unless we all want to go back to why she disappeared again.
